Builder v. Plucker

Proverbs 14:1
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

What does it mean to pluck something? Dictionary.com says plucking is "to pull off or out from the place of growth" like a flower or seedling. The bible has several illustrations of good and bad ground. We are that ground. Good ground ready for the gospel and bad ground refuses Christ.

So this scripture means this:
Wise women prepare the ground so it will be good and produce fruit in its season for the Kingdom of God. She plants good seeds into her children and family, her friends too she pours good into her friends. She talks kindly with coworkers and always helps strangers when she can. She plants good seeds of love, and kindness into the people around her and she edifies the ground with truth. A wise woman knows there are consequences to actions; and that consequences can be good or bad...there will be an outcome and she does the work to secure good things for her household. She is a builder not a plucker.

A foolish woman does the opposite, because she is selfish. She cares only for the moment and cannot see afar off. Her eyes are filled with delusion and she is very needy. She plucks up good seeds and tramples the beauty in her children and family. Her unsatisfied heart leads to broken relationships as she attacks those who hold her dear. She uses her hands for destruction rather than construction. She is a plucker not a builder.

Are you a plucker or a builder? Do your words build up those around you or pluck them down? We are responsible for our words though we try not to be, lo, we are. I've come to a specific juncture where I can see how pluckish I can be. I see that my builder tools are a little rusty sitting in the garage collecting dust, but I have determined myself to walk in love like Paul instructed us to in Ephesians. You see, the wise woman walks in a selfless love...abandonment of self for the building of others for the benefit of Christ. Wow, what an amazing thing to be! A wise builder!